You have mastered the art of saying all the right things to someone you like but for some reason you are still sitting at home on a Saturday night playing on the computer. If the object of your affection always has a reaction to you different then you would imagine it to be then you may be saying something with your body language that is speaking louder than your words ever could.
Body language is not a new form of communication. It’s been around long before we were able to speak words that made sense. Body language tells a person everything you are thinking and feeling, and it’s very hard to hide the true meaning of what you are saying because of it. This is why you can get labelled creepy, annoying, scared, or boring before you even open your mouth.
With a little awareness of your body language you can start saying all the right things and expressing all the right things simultaneously.
The most important thing to remember is that you will be sized up by your body language instantly. This can be anywhere from a few seconds to a few minutes. The object of your affection is unconsciously studying your every move and gesture and deciding whether you are the type of person they want to get to know better, so you better make sure you body language portrays someone who is worth their time.
While explaining the science of body language is too much for this short article there are some important things to remember when talking to someone you like.
1. Be Relaxed
Tense body movements and gestures will make the other person tense or uncomfortable as well, while relaxed body movements and gestures will make the other person feel welcome and comfortable around you. So keep your body relaxed and welcoming.
2. Good Posture
Standing and sitting tall will speak of confidence in yourself while slouching will only show a lack of confidence. Confidence is essential to attraction, so keep your shoulders back and your head high in order to make a great impression!
3. Eye Contact
Make sure to maintain eye contact with the person you are talking to. This will show interest in what they are saying and doing, and let’s face it, everyone wants someone to be interested in them. If you dart your eyes around while they are talking, or if you focus your attention on something else instead of them, then they will think that you are bored with them or just plain rude. Either way it will not go over well.
These 3 tips will get you started into making a better impression through your body language, and making sure that your words line up with what you are portraying. Once you understand your body language better you will unconsciously make it portray exactly what you are trying to say.